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Bonding while working

  • May. 11th, 2008 at 8:46 AM
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[info]stereotype441 posted about how his life is too busy and he can't make the reunion. [info]ideath responded: "Also, FWIW, i like hanging out helping with chores. Remember how fun it was to pull up the weed-trees? Doing other people's chores is always fun, and many hands etcetera."

So true. I think one of the downsides of our less communal modern lifestyle is that we get less "productive hanging out" time. Work, home, and friends are all separate, so when you are working you aren't hanging out with your friends, and same goes for when you are doing chores. As opposed to the traditional tribal structure where you worked, lived, and hung out with the same set of people, without the rigid distinction between sectors of life.

Obviously there are a lot of gains from the specialization in work and friendship that comes from our current system. But there are some losses too. Many hands make not only light work, but also good bonding. Perhaps one thing that will happen on seasteads is that, as small intentional communities, they will restore some of this lost balance.

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[info]flamingnerd wrote:
May. 11th, 2008 04:01 pm (UTC)
YES. Work bonding is awesome. Just yesterday I was thinking about how I could possibly fit some volunteer dish-washing at a friend's diner.

Work bonding is also easy socializing. Less eye contact required, you can go long stretches without talking. And working towards a common goal is GREAT for bonding.
[info]variantvortex wrote:
May. 12th, 2008 07:24 am (UTC)
I've heard it called "working under the umbrella" (not sure why). Specifically as a couples therapy suggestion, a way for couples to have some together time while also getting things done.
[info]zathrus wrote:
May. 12th, 2008 01:13 pm (UTC)
One of the best friend experiences I've had in recent years was with a woman who I was only sort of friends with, until we decided to clean each other's homes together. I brought my kids with, and we would clean one house for an hour, then the other house for an hour, then eat lunch together. We very quickly came to consider each other really close friends, we got a tremendous amount of work done, and we had fun. She moved away last fall, and that was tremendously sad. I haven't found that same type of friendship with anyone else since.

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